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OK, so if you say I can, how? Well here is my top 3 suggestions for you.<\/p>\n
1.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0Strive toward improvement\u2013not perfection.<\/strong><\/p>\n I can already hear the perfections reading this just hating this idea, but be brave and give it a go. A common negative thought that gets in the way of making change and progress is the (quite untrue) belief that we must be perfect if we\u2019re going to achieve our goals. Perfection is great, but just it isn\u2019t realistic, and I should know! Striving toward absolute perfection isn\u2019t needed to improve your life or work toward new skills.<\/p>\n Instead you could work toward accepting improvement over absolute perfection. Challenge yourself to work a little harder\/smarter\/better each day. Even giving an extra 10% of effort while working toward a goal will help you move closer to your desired results. Continually seeking perfection will inevitably lead to big disappointment, but working toward improvement will encourage you to continue, even when things get hard.<\/p>\n 2.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0Look into cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) methods to restructure your negative thinking habits.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n CBT sounds intimidating, but it simply refers to a toolkit of strategies you can use to replace bad or negative thoughts with better, more positive ones.<\/p>\n For example, one method of doing this is called cognitive restructuring. Again, this isn\u2019t as complicated as it sounds. Cognitive restructuring takes some time, practice, and patience to master, but it will achieve what its name suggests\u2013you will learn to restructure your thinking patterns to be more positive, motivational, and forward thinking.<\/p>\n To do this, you simply identify a negative thought, identify it, and then replace it with a less distorted version that gives you a clear mental picture of reality. Often, our bad or negative thoughts are fueled by fear or worry\u2013this means those bad thoughts cloud our minds with \u201cwhat ifs\u201d that can stop us from taking a chance to make change or try something new. Learning to identify, label, and change thoughts takes quite a bit of practice. Below is an example of what this might look like:<\/p>\n N.B.<\/strong> As a tool, the Emotional Landscape is the perfect accompaniment to help you acknowledge and shift. Contact me to find out more.<\/em><\/p>\n 3. Practice basic mindfulness.<\/strong><\/p>\n Mindfulness is the practice of putting yourself \u201cin the moment.\u201d This means you take a moment to mentally assess your current situation, feelings, and environment. It can be used as a tool to quiet a busy mind and bring yourself back to reality, particularly if you struggle with stress management and anxious thinking.<\/p>\n For example, if you\u2019re feeling overwhelmed, take a moment to close your eyes, breathe a little slower and deeper than you usually do, and focus on the \u201chere and now.\u201d You can take a few minutes to run through these questions to bring yourself back into the current moment:<\/p>\n By focusing on these \u201cright now\u201d questions, you can bring your mind back to focus on the present.<\/p>\n For more tips and to never miss a blog, sign up here<\/a> or book a call to discover more about the Clear Your Head to Get Ahead program, here<\/a><\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" OK, so if you say I can, how? Well here is my top 3 suggestions for you. 1.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0Strive toward improvement\u2013not perfection. 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